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Getting to the Root of Your Triggers: Asking the Right Questions to Find Clarity

5 Steps to Overcoming Overwhelm: Reclaiming Peace and Confidence

Breaking Down the Wall: How Life’s Stressors Build Up Anxiety and Overwhelm

Freud Was Right.

It’s(kind of) your mother’s fault

It’s no secret that social media has us feeling inferior to things that aren’t even real.

Filters stop us from seeing and normalizing real faces. We are not meant to see our own faces as often as we do either! Before mirrors, we’d have only ever seen ourselves reflected in water. Social media ups the ante even further!

Content creators putting their best feet forward makes others feel like they’re not living up to expectations.

So it’s not a big surprise that my vulnerable, unfiltered post about perimenopause went viral yesterday.

A few weeks ago this blog was about how my intuition was telling me to be less serious, but I think what it was actually telling me was to be less perfectionistic. 

Unmasked.

It’s not always easy to show your true self, even at your “ugliest“, “weakest” or darkest. 

But by allowing yourself, even a touch of vulnerability, it may open the door for thousands of others to feel seen, supported, and to realize that they’re not alone.

Lately, my social media posts have been collecting crickets, but as soon as I posted about what I’m working through myself, hundreds of women were all standing up, raising their hands and shouting ME TOO!

If you’re curious, you can join the conversation on TikTok/Instagram here.

If you’re afraid of being seen, it’s nothing a little subconscious work cant cure.

Ever feel like you're stuck in a never-ending episode of "Relationship Groundhog Day"? 

You and your partner keep having the same arguments, triggering each other in ways that would make a minefield proud. It's almost as if the universe thought it would be hilarious to pair two people whose deepest wounds perfectly poke at each other's insecurities. 

Thanks, universe.

But before you consider adopting a dozen cats (I mean, it’s an option. Shrug) and calling it quits, there's good news: You can break the cycle. Let's dive into this dance of corresponding triggers and figure out how to step on each other's toes a little less.

So, What's the Deal with These "Corresponding Triggers"?

In the grand journey of relationships, we all carry a little (or a lot) of emotional baggage. Maybe it's from childhood—the times when you felt unseen or unheard. Perhaps it's from past relationships that left a few scars. These core wounds are like hidden bruises; they hurt when pressed.

Now, here's the plot twist: Your partner has their own set of needs and expectations that, coincidentally, press right on those bruises. And guess what? Your needs do the same to them. It's like a cosmic joke where both of you have been handed scripts that guarantee drama.

For example, your need for reassurance (because, hello, validation is lovely) might trigger your partner's fear of being smothered. Their desire for independence might make you feel neglected. Round and round you go, each triggering the other's core wounds without even trying.

Check out my latest silly video on this topic here.

Classic Cases of "It's Not Me, It's My Deep-Seated Issues"

1. Fear of Abandonment vs. Need for Independence

You crave closeness and constant connection—nothing wrong with a little togetherness, right? Your partner, however, values their personal space like a cat that only wants attention on its terms. When you seek more time together, they pull away, leaving you feeling rejected, which makes you reach out even more. It's a fun spiral.

2. Desire for Reassurance vs. Fear of Expectations

You like to know where you stand. Is that too much to ask? Your partner, meanwhile, gets anxious when they feel expectations building—they don't want to let anyone down. Your requests for reassurance make them worry they're failing you, so they withdraw, which only makes you seek more reassurance. See the pattern?

3. People-Pleasing vs. Need for Autonomy

You're a giver—always ready to help, support, and step in when needed (or even when not needed). Your partner prides themselves on handling things solo. Your well-intentioned assistance makes them feel controlled or incompetent, leading them to push back. You're left feeling unappreciated, so you try even harder to please. Exhausted yet?

How Did We End Up Here?

Most of these triggers have their roots in past experiences. Maybe you grew up feeling that love was conditional, or perhaps previous relationships taught you to be on high alert for signs of trouble. Without realizing it, we often choose partners whose behaviors unwittingly poke at these old wounds.

It's like we're subconsciously drawn to people who can help us reenact unresolved issues, hoping for a different outcome. Logical? Not particularly. Common? More than you'd think.

When your partner accidentally taps into these sensitive areas, it's like hitting a raw nerve. You react strongly, they react to your reaction, and suddenly you're both caught in a feedback loop worthy of a daytime soap opera.

Breaking the Cycle: Is There a Reset Button?

Here's the silver lining: Understanding what's happening is the first step toward changing it. Recognizing that your intense reactions might be linked more to past wounds than the present situation can be a game-changer.

By becoming aware of your own triggers—and acknowledging that your partner has theirs—you can start to navigate conflicts more thoughtfully. It's about moving from autopilot reactions to mindful responses. Then addressing the triggers on the subconscious level creates effortless calm and confidence- without having to constantly babysit your brain.

Steps to Heal Your Triggers (Without Losing Your Sense of Humor)

1. Spot the Patterns: Start noticing when conflicts arise. What's happening in those moments? How are you feeling? What are you thinking?

2. Reflect on the Roots: Ask yourself, "Does this feeling remind me of something from my past?" You might be surprised how often the answer is "Yes."

3. Communicate Openly: Share your insights with your partner. Not in a "This is all your fault" way, but more like, "I've realized that when X happens, I feel Y, and I think it might be linked to Z."

4. Practice Self-Compassion: Be gentle with yourself. It's okay to have triggers; everyone does. Recognize that you're working on it, and that's a big deal.

5. Set Healthy Boundaries: It's okay to tell your partner what you need—and to respect what they need. Maybe you need reassurance, and they need a bit of space. Find a compromise.

6. Seek Support if Needed: Sometimes talking to a professional can help you untangle those deeper issues. There's no shame in getting a little guidance and some groundbreaking tools.

Ready to Change the Script?

If you're tired of the same old arguments and the emotional roller coaster that comes with them, it's time to take action. Understanding and healing your triggers can transform your relationship—not to mention your own sense of peace.

Imagine navigating disagreements without the drama, feeling secure regardless of your partner's moods, and actually enjoying your time together without the lurking fear of the next conflict. Sounds dreamy, doesn't it?

Let's Work Together to Break the Cycle

You don't have to figure this out alone. If you're ready to dive deeper and heal those core wounds, I'm here to help. Together, we can uncover what's really driving your reactions and find healthier ways to respond.

Say goodbye to the emotional merry-go-round and hello to a more balanced, fulfilling relationship.

Apply to work with me and let's start this journey toward breaking the cycle and creating the connection you've always wanted.

Because life's too short to keep replaying the same old arguments. Let's write a new chapter—one where both of you can thrive.

We’ve all been there: something happens—a comment, a look, a situation—and suddenly, we’re flooded with emotions. We feel hurt, angry, or upset, and the intensity of the reaction surprises us. For empaths and emotionally sensitive individuals, these triggers can feel overwhelming, leaving us feeling stuck in an emotional loop. The question is, why?

To gain clarity, it’s crucial to understand the root cause of these triggers, and that often starts with asking the right questions. Instead of simply reacting, what if we paused, turned inward, and examined why something truly bothers us? Here’s how to get to the bottom of your triggers and start finding emotional freedom.

What Exactly Is a Trigger?

A trigger is any event or situation that evokes a strong emotional response, often connected to past unresolved experiences. When you’re triggered, the intensity of the emotion usually doesn’t align with the present event. This is your body’s way of signaling that there’s something deeper beneath the surface—something that hasn’t been fully healed or processed.

The Power of Self-Inquiry

One of the best ways to understand your triggers is through **self-inquiry**—asking reflective questions that help you dig into what’s really happening beneath the emotional reaction. This practice helps you shift from simply being overwhelmed by your feelings to gaining insight into why you feel the way you do.

For a quick video on asking questions, click here.

Here are some powerful questions to ask yourself when you feel triggered:

1. What exactly is bothering me right now?

   Before you can dive into why something triggers you, get clear on what is triggering you. Is it the tone of someone’s voice? The words they used? The way they dismissed your feelings? Identifying the specific trigger is the first step in untangling the emotional web.

2. What does this remind me of?

   Often, current triggers have roots in past experiences. Ask yourself if this situation brings up memories of something similar. Did someone else in your past make you feel the same way? Understanding the connection can give insight into why your reaction feels so intense- and help clear them at their root.

3. When was the first time I felt this way?

   Sometimes, a present trigger echoes a deep wound from childhood or another formative period. Try to pinpoint when you first felt these same emotions. Was there a particular incident or relationship that made you feel unsafe, unloved, or dismissed? Use this while doing subconscious work to get lasting relief.

4. What unmet need is surfacing?

   Triggers often highlight unmet emotional needs. Maybe you need to feel heard, respected, loved, or validated. By identifying the need, you can begin to shift your focus from blaming the trigger to understanding what your emotional self is asking for. This allows you to heal any deep sense of void within you on a deeper level.

5. What am I afraid of?

   Triggers can evoke fears, often tied to loss, rejection, or failure. When you ask yourself this question, you may discover that the situation is tapping into a fear of abandonment, betrayal, or not being good enough.

6. What story am I telling myself about this situation?

   We often create narratives around our experiences that intensify our emotional reactions. For instance, if a friend cancels plans, the story you might tell yourself is that they don’t value your time or care about you. Examining the story behind the trigger allows you to separate fact from assumption.

7. Is this reaction proportional to the situation?

   Once you've reflected on the trigger, ask yourself if your reaction matches the present moment or if it's an overreaction linked to past hurts. If the intensity feels out of proportion, that's a clue that there's more going on emotionally than just the current event.

8. How can I soothe myself in this moment?

   Being triggered can feel destabilizing, but once you understand why you’re triggered, the next step is finding a way to soothe yourself. What helps you feel grounded and calm? Maybe it’s deep breathing, journaling, or talking to a trusted friend. Finding a way to care for yourself in the moment is essential to breaking the cycle of emotional overwhelm.

9. How can I remove this trigger so I don’t have to keep working on it forever?

Dealing with triggers, traumas and fears at their root, on the subconscious level of the mind, is key to resolving triggers once and for all. You can use tools like hypnosis, EMDR, EFT, NLP or the tools I use which combine the most effective aspects of all of these modalities and more - in order to resolve stubborn triggers for good.

The Benefits of Getting to the Root

When you take the time to understand your triggers, you’re no longer a victim to your emotions. Instead, you become an empowered observer of your inner world. Here are some of the benefits:

- Increased emotional awareness: By understanding what triggers you, you develop a deeper sense of self-awareness and emotional intelligence, and gain the ability to heal them at the root.

- Healing old wounds: Often, triggers point to unresolved pain from the past. When you address the root cause, you begin to heal those old wounds and free yourself from their emotional hold.

- Improved relationships: When you understand why something bothers you, you can communicate more clearly and compassionately with others. This helps you avoid unnecessary conflict and strengthens your connections. This becomes even easier once the emotional sting is taken out of the trigger.

- Personal growth: Every time you face a trigger with curiosity instead of judgment, you grow emotionally. You learn more about yourself and can move forward with greater clarity and peace.

Final Thoughts

Being triggered isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s an invitation to explore what’s happening on a deeper level. By asking yourself reflective questions, you open the door to understanding why certain things bother you and how you can begin to heal. The process requires patience and compassion, but the more you practice self-inquiry, the more freedom you’ll find from the emotional weight of your triggers.

Remember, the goal isn’t to never feel triggered—it’s to understand why you’re triggered and to respond with insight and care. Over time, you’ll find that the same situations that once caused intense emotional reactions begin to lose their power over you. (Addressing issues on the subconscious level speeds this process exponentially.) And that’s when true emotional freedom begins.

Over the last few years, I've noticed a common theme among the women who seek me out: they are overwhelmed. This overwhelm shows up in different ways, but the underlying struggle is the same. Do any of these sound familiar?

- Constant Anxiety or Hypervigilance: You're always on edge, waiting for the next thing to go wrong.

- Frustration and Resentment: It feels like everything is on your shoulders, and you’re frustrated that no one seems to help.

- Time Pressure: There’s too much to do and not enough time or energy to get it all done.

- Feeling Attacked by Life: Stressors and pressures seem to come from all directions, leaving you feeling defeated.

If any of this resonates, you’re not alone. Overwhelm is more than just a busy schedule—it’s an emotional and mental weight. But the good news? You don’t have to live like this forever. Below are five steps to help you overcome overwhelm and return to your peaceful, confident self.

Step 1: Figure Out Why You're Overwhelmed

The first step is to identify the source of your overwhelm. Is it resentment because you're not getting any help? Are you taking on too much? Or maybe it’s external pressure from work or family? Understanding what type of overwhelm you’re dealing with is crucial for moving forward. This is where I help my clients dig deep and find the root cause of their overwhelm.

Step 2: Address the Overwhelm

Once you understand where your overwhelm is coming from, it's time to address it. Sometimes this means making external changes, like asking for help or setting boundaries. Other times, it involves talking yourself down or addressing the issue on a subconscious level. You have options here, and I guide my clients in finding the best approach for their unique situation.

Step 3: Release Beliefs and Behaviors That Keep You Stuck

Many of us are stuck in patterns that keep us overwhelmed. Maybe you’ve told yourself, “It’s my job,” “I’ll lose people if I don’t do everything,” or “Life is attacking me.” These beliefs keep you trapped in overwhelm, but the good news is, you can release them. Whether through repetition or subconscious work, letting go of these beliefs is key to finding freedom.

Step 4: Replace Old Patterns with Peace and Confidence

By practicing new behaviors, using positive self talk or working on the subconscious level.

Step 5: Return to your truest, most peaceful, confident self- before life took its toll and programed you into this lifestyle.

In upcoming weeks I’ll be breaking these down for you even more and getting deeper into what I mean by subconscious work

In the meantime, if any of the resonated with you, the next step would be applying to work with me, which you can do so here.

Just think: What if you could overcome emotional triggers and overwhelm in just minutes each?

I lead driven, Empath Millennial and GenX women like you, who’ve done a ton of work on yourself but still end up overwhelmed, feeling like the whole world is on your shoulders.

I give you science-based tools and guidance that work like *magic* 

Allowing you to Return your truest, most powerful self in EVERY area of life.

By:

* Revealing the reasons behind your overwhelm

* Removing the overwhelm - at its root- in minutes 

* Releasing the beliefs and behaviors that keep you stuck

* Replacing your old patterns with effortless peace and confidence without having to constantly babysit your brain.

Apply to work with me today if you’d like to experience more peace in all of your tomorrows.

Have you ever felt like you were carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders, as if your mind and emotions were trapped behind a solid brick wall?

As an empath, it often feels like every little stressor in life—whether it's your own or someone else’s—gets added to this invisible wall until it becomes insurmountable.

What if I told you that each of these stressors is like a brick in that wall? Individually, they might not seem significant, but over time, they stack up, creating a barrier that keeps you stuck, anxious, and overwhelmed.

The Subtle Triggers: Small Bricks, Big Impact

Everyday stressors and emotional triggers don’t always hit us like a wrecking ball. More often than not, they’re subtle and subconscious. You might feel a pang of guilt when you say no to a friend or a wave of frustration when your boundaries are crossed at work. Each of these moments adds a brick to your wall of overwhelm.

For many empaths, these stressors go unnoticed at first. They feel like fleeting moments of discomfort, but in reality, they sink into your subconscious mind, silently adding weight to the emotional load you're carrying. This slow accumulation of stress is what leads to feeling stuck, drained, and unable to cope.

The Subconscious Mind: The Foundation of Your Wall

Much of this wall is built in the subconscious mind. Even though the conscious mind may rationalize or minimize stressors—"Oh, it’s just one bad day” or “I’ll handle it tomorrow”—the subconscious mind is still deeply affected. It holds onto every experience, emotion, and belief, layering on the bricks day by day.

For example, if you’re used to putting others' needs above your own (a common trait for empaths), the subconscious mind has been conditioned to accept this behavior as normal. The result? Another brick is added each time you ignore your own needs, leading to feelings of resentment, guilt, and emotional exhaustion.

Removing the Bricks: How Subconscious Healing Can Help

If each trigger or stressor is a brick in the wall of anxiety, the key to breaking down that wall lies in addressing them at the subconscious level. While self-awareness and mindfulness are important tools, true, lasting change often happens when we go deeper—into the patterns and beliefs stored in the subconscious mind.

When you begin to work on the subconscious level, you're not just chipping away at the bricks one by one. You’re targeting the core beliefs and emotional triggers that cause the wall to build in the first place. By addressing these foundational issues, entire sections of the wall can crumble at once, allowing you to release anxiety and overwhelm much more easily and quickly.

Practical Ways to Start Breaking Down Your Wall

1. Subconscious Reprogramming: Tools like meditation, hypnotherapy, or neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) can help you access and reprogram the subconscious beliefs that are adding to your emotional wall. These practices can loosen the "bricks" of anxiety and overwhelm by helping you let go of outdated beliefs. The subconscious tools I use with my clients combine the most effective elements of proven subconscious methods into a single track that clears most triggers (or “bricks”) in just minutes each. This is why I absolutely love what I do!

2. Emotional Release: Journaling or working with a therapist to process your emotions can be a great first step to remove the heavy weight of unexpressed feelings, releasing some of the subconscious tension that’s adding bricks to your wall. Most of my clients have already done this work and feel plateaued. The subconscious work is the next step to get you where you want to be.

3. Boundary Setting: The more you honor your own needs, the fewer bricks get added to your wall. Learning to set boundaries from a place of self-compassion helps you break down the patterns that have led to overwhelm.

4. Mindful Awareness: Start noticing when new "bricks" are being added. If you're aware of your emotional triggers and stressors as they happen, you can address them in real time instead of letting them accumulate. Doing this on the subconscious level helps eliminate issues before they can even begin.

The Freedom Beyond the Wall

When you begin to dismantle the wall brick by brick, you’ll feel lighter, freer, and more in control of your life. Instead of living in constant anxiety and overwhelm, you’ll experience a sense of ease as your emotional world becomes less cluttered.

By working with your subconscious mind and addressing the deep-seated patterns that build up stress, you can finally let go of the emotional wall that has kept you feeling stuck for so long. The result? A lighter, more empowered version of you—one who can navigate life’s challenges with clarity and peace.

Final Thoughts

The process of breaking down the wall of overwhelm isn’t always easy, but it’s worth it. When you understand that each trigger is just a brick that can be removed in minutes, you’ll also realize that the wall doesn’t have to define you. By focusing on subconscious healing and emotional release, you can create lasting change and live with a sense of freedom that once felt impossible.

You’ve carried those bricks long enough. Isn’t it time to start tearing down the wall?

Our parents are nearly always the root of our issues – even when they did their best – but especially when they did their worst.

When I’m working with women to find the root of an issue, I often have to explain that our parents do mess us up- whether purposely or accidentally.

Some people get that intrinsically. Their dads were always yelling, or drinking or absent. Their moms were controlling or manipulative or critical. It’s obvious that these things would have an effect on us and how we see ourselves - and the world.

Where the resistance comes in is when the parents were loving, wonderful and “did everything right.” Grown children of healthy upbringings hate it when I start asking them to look at their childhood as the root of a problem. They can’t imagine blaming a loving parent for a neurosis they’re experiencing in the present.

The truth is that THERE IS NO AVOIDING MESSING OUR KIDS UP.

Experts have told parents for centuries to “let the baby cry it out.” Hundreds of thousands of well-meaning parents let their infants cry it out when there were real needs being expressed. Even if that need was sometimes just to be loved and nurtured. As immature creatures, we babies decide this neglect means something about us: we’re not loved, not good enough, a bad person, unworthy of love, unwanted, that our feelings or needs are unacceptable and so on. We then carry that belief unconsciously for the rest of our lives unless it is directly addressed in the subconscious mind.

Think about when a toddler finds an object they’re really interested in but is also dangerous for them. Most parents would, rightfully so, take the item away. How does a toddler react to that? They act as though the end of the world has arrived. This is experienced as a trauma. Mild trauma, but a trauma nonetheless.

Similarly, when you see families out shopping and a child wants sugary cereal, candy or toys and is denied those options, they react as though they are being beaten and tortured.

When a child does something wrong and is punished, they will be hurt, angry or resentful toward their authority figure. (The child might have been better served by a discussion on why they did the thing & what they thought the payoff would be- as well as an explanation as to why it’s not appropriate. But parents can only do what they know to do at the time.)

In all of these examples, it was necessary and healthy to treat the child this way. It would typically be considered good parenting. The child would grow into a miserable adult, if they weren’t taught these lessons early on.

Yet the child is still traumatized. Some part of this pain remains in the subconscious, waiting to be triggered by future examples of not getting what they want, having things taken from them, being ignored or being reprimanded in everyday adult situations.

Not to mention actually abusive or neglectful parents who do even more long-term damage.

Either way, it’s not about placing blame.

It’s not actually about what they did to you or didn’t do for you. It’s about how it made you feel at the time.

It’s about finding the root cause of why something still triggers you now, or why you believe negative things about yourself, the world, and the way you deserve to be treated. This is the real purpose of looking into your childhood for situations that could have contributed to what you’re struggling with now.

It’s all about healing that child version of you that still lives in your subconscious mind, in constant fear of repeating the wounds of the past. It allows them to express themselves and see that there truly is no threat.

Even if you consciously understand that your parents were just doing the best they could, your subconscious needs to be convinced as well in order to end the triggering for good.

I hope that this also allows the parents among you assuage any guilt you have over doing these things to your own children. There is not a human alive who hasn’t been emotionally harmed by a parent’s actions or words- regardless of their good intentions.

The best we can do is to show our children respect. Explaining why something isn’t good for them. Letting them know that our denials are coming from a place of love and protection. Letting them make as many choices for themselves as possible but offering guidance- and most of all picking your battles. Learning what’s worth trying to control and what’s not.

We went from a generation that practically ignored their kids to a generation who build their lives around their children, neither has worked. Think about where you can balance this. Let them make choices. Let them make mistakes. But also let them experience the consequences of those mistakes. Guide them as best you can as they go.

Make sure that you’re not putting your own needs, desires, hopes and failures on your kids. That’s their life, not yours. Doing the work to heal your own triggers will make you a far more amazing parent because you’ll be able to see them for who they are, rather than a reflection on you.

If all of this weren’t enough to worry about, you’ve also got to take into account what the study of epigenetics has uncovered. We genetically pass our triggers down a family line. As a survival mechanism, we inherit the triggers of our forefathers (and mothers.)

Let’s say your grandfather was in the war and witnessed battle. He may have spent the rest of his life being startled by loud bangs. It’s also possible that anyone born to him or his offspring after that war might also be triggered by loud bangs or anything resembling battle. It’s meant to help us avoid potentially dangerous situations, but the truth is that we rarely encounter such dangerous situations on a dad-to-day basis, so we don’t need to be hyper alert to avoid such things.

Many of us have money fears and a general sense of lack, not only because our society is always harping on it, but also because most of our ancestors have experienced The Great Depression or something very similar to it.

This is another layer of things we can acknowledge or take into account when doing clearing work. Not only is it good to look into our own memories and experiences around each trigger, but those of our ancestors and possibly even our past lives. All of this may play into what causes our reactions here and now.

Resisting Change

I encounter a lot of women who are resistant to doing clearing work because they're afraid of losing their identity based in their old wounds and programming.

Some say "How will I know who I am without my anger/pain?"

Others say "Doesn't your life end once you've figured out all of your stuff?"

Many ask "How will I be motivated without my wounds/fear driving me?"

I think we collectively have been trained to live in a victimhood or fear based mentality.

We can't imagine life without the misery & pain we've been carrying.

We define ourselves by it.

We focus more on what we would be losing than what we would be gaining.

I have cleared so much of my stuff at this point that I can answer these questions in a way that might surprise you.

I have spent the last few months (since clearing my biggest issue) going:
"Who am I now?"

Many would call it an identity crisis.

Who am I without my obsessive thoughts about love/romance/sex/passion?

Who am I without my need to be famous?

Should I focus on just the mind/brain now or combine it with spiritual/energy work?

What do I really believe?

What is my purpose now?

Yet it is the most delicious freefall.

Because I get to ask those questions
Without a knot in my stomach
Without obsessive thoughts running through my mind
Without fear
Without sadness
Without pain

That is what I have lost.

What I have gained is peace, calm, wonder, freedom, love, and joy.

When something (rarely) triggers me now, I celebrate the opportunity to clear another wound.

If you ask my friends and family they would say I am the same person- just more laid back.

But if you ask me- I'm a much happier masterpiece in the making. 

A work in progress.

Who is no longer carrying her pain like a badge of honor.

I'm still motivated- but it's no longer by neediness- it's by the desire to serve & enjoy life.

It's the desire to help others find the freedom that I've found...and to find even greater freedom for myself.

My love life has improved.

My work life has improved.

Most importantly my inner life has improved.

I've not lost myself.

I've found myself.

Surviving your mind

You know how when you're in an argument, you later find yourself helplessly replaying the scenario in your head? Going over and over it- thinking of how you could have handled it better, what you could have said as a comeback, etc..

This is actually just your brain trying to keep you safe. That argument was a perceived threat to your personal safety and your brain's only job is to keep you alive and safe.

So your replaying of that scene is actually a survival mechanism.

It happens whether you have a small trauma or a large one. The intensity of the playback is usually determined by the level of threat/trauma.

This is what has been classified as PTSD. It was previously labeled as a mental illness, but is actually your brain trying to help you survive in case the incident reoccurs. Then you'll know how to survive it (or avoid it)- maybe even better than you did the first time. It happens to all of us.

If this brain function begins to cause suffering, there are now immediate ways to stop it from replaying on autopilot, and driving you bonkers. The only options before were meds & long-term therapy- but that's not the case anymore. This is why I can't seem to shut up about Orpheus and other modalities. Nobody has to needlessly suffer this endless loop of replays! 

Save the world

We are all taking a deeper look at our core beliefs - both about ourselves and the world.

When your foundation is shaken by a shift in core beliefs, it temporarily brings about a feeling of insecurity.

This causes us to carry a sort of dark cloud over us and to nitpick and judge those around us- lashing out in misdirected ways. 

The battle is inside of us, not out there.

When you come to a place of peace & knowing within, the outer world becomes peaceful in your eyes as well.

This season seems to have had us marinating in the transition- like the caterpillar in the cocoon, falling apart- but eventually put back together but even more beautifully.

When life turns to crap, just know that you are getting your wings...and it will get better. This stage of The Shift is almost done.

Oh and this just in:

"No one but you has assigned you to save the world."